Things I’ve Learned In Life

October 21, 2014

In life I’ve learned a few things:
1) friends are great but not “needing” them puts greater value and appreciation for the ones you truly hold dear.
2) Moments are fleeting and to be IN the moment as it happens is something worth celebrating, not always by ruining it by taking a photo. Just let it happen.
3) no matter how sexy you may think you are, if you’re dumb, you won’t hold my interest for long.
4) some people are only good for one thing. It may not be a noble sentiment but it’s an honest one.
5) your greatest potential isn’t always what others may think, but pay attention because sometimes it is.
6) secrets are only as safe as the vessels that house them. Coffins are the most if not only secure vessel so choose your confidants wisely.
7) At some point, every single person you know, even your closest most trusted ally, will disappoint you and let you down. Guard your heart against this, but don’t close it, if you can keep it open after the affront.
8) know yourself. Before looking to be someone’s someone, know who the hell YOU are and what YOU need and what YOU are willing to contribute.


First post of 2014 with Video

January 7, 2014

So I’ve finally installed WordPress on my iPhone, over a year after having it. That means I’ll be more likely to post pics, videos and stories. I just hope I don’t post my “personal photos” accidentally! 馃槣

Check out the video here!

The purpose of this revised blog is to be more open with readers about what makes me tick, how things in the world work and to help everyone better understand what’s going on in the world around them in a way they can appreciate.

I’ll also be uploading to YouTube so check out my channel – guess what it’s called.

Watch this space to find out more of what’s happening in the life of the Superlative1.


Letters to the Next Generation: Number 1

July 7, 2010
Sometimes the past is better left in the past. Don’t allow yourself to be swept up by feelings of Nostalgia or carried back to a time when you knew no better. Hold firm young ones, steadfast and true. Look back fondly on your memories, but prepare your future in such a way that it’s better than your past, so you can look forward to the good things that are yet to come.
I remember my younger days, I used to be very unhappy, and often felt as though I was alone in the world because I felt so different but I see now that it is my uniqueness that really empowered me. When harnessed properly, what makes you a ‘freak’ or an ‘outcast’ can be your best ally in the future. Never forget that. Love yourself, and anyone else can come after that.
Wishing you peace, the love you deserve, the success you work for and the good company of fine friends.
Love always
Superlative1

Never Let Anyone Steal Your Sunshine

June 8, 2010

“Your love is nothing I can’t fight. Can’t sleep with the man who dims my shine!”

Lady GaGa said it best in her song “I Like It Rough” from her The Fame album.

That’s the problem with many relationships these days. People have been so conditioned to thinking that being coupled is the most important thing there is to a social existence. Ranked above friendship, a career, even above your own happiness. That last part always had me confused though, think about it- Being with someone is more important than being happy. I must have grown up on too many fairy tales because the two (being coupled and being happy) always used to go hand-in-hand in my books. So when did it happen that happiness was not a side effect of this “relationship” we’re trained to desperately seek?

I figure it happened somewhere between puberty and your first kiss.聽Hormones聽start raging and then peer classifications start changing from friends to a multi-dimensional grouping including the people who started having sex way too early to those who felt like they’d never have sex at high school because they were religious, unpopular, fat, tall or whatever reason they felt applied to them. The pressure to be aligned with someone especially in a sexual nature becomes聽ingrained聽in the minds of the adolescents and they start to 聽adjust their outlook on relationships and what they were looking for in a partner for the sake of being accepted by their peers. This stage in life is understandable for many because during those years we are still trying to carve an identity all our own and it’s a teething process. However, some people get stuck in the ‘high school’ stage of relationships right through the course of their life and I often wondered why.

Now my experiences in high school were totally different because I cared little for my classmates, and I didn’t consider them to be my peers in any form shape or fashion. Apart from a uniform, we had very little in common. As isolating as it may sound, I was still relatively popular, however I still used to watch on in amazement at the lengths people went to get accepted by a group of people I felt were none too ‘awesome’ to begin with. For example, there was this young girl who was in a physically abusive relationship with one of the older ‘cool’ kids who I just thought was a walking colonic bag but apparently he had a way (and a fist) with the ladies. I say that is utter garbage personally but it is nothing new and far too typical these days. Again, youthful ignorance could be tagged as being responsible.

As an adult I find emotional dependence is the primary cause of people ending up with partners that really are shit. More so than the story about being financially dependent on a person, it’s love. Often times people are ashamed to admit they’re in love with the person who ‘dims their shine’ so they make up other excuses which they’re less ashamed of, and even wish were true. I’ve always been of the stance- I rather be happy alone than miserable together- not to say I jump ship at the first sign of trouble, but I do make sure I am well taken care of emotionally and I don’t need another person in my life (apart from my friends who I love dearly) to make me feel ‘happy’ and trust me, it took a few years to get to a point in my life where I can say I’m happy. Sure, shit happens on a daily basis but that’s life, knowing I have good friends who have my back and more importantly, being able to stand on my own two as the Hip Hop and R&B artists put it, has given me this sense of calm and level-headedness which comes in quite handy when the world is falling down around you and anarchy is in the streets.

If my readers are to take anything away from what I wrote, let it be this:
1. You’re worth more to you than you are to anyone else, value yourself appropriately.
2. Love who you’re with, but never be blinded by the feeling to the point you’re no longer self-sufficient
3. Spend time developing solid friendships. Lovers will come and go, but your friends will be there to have your back.
4. Learn to be happy alone or you’ll never know how to be happy with someone
5. Never mistreat those close to you. The same way you wouldn’t want someone mistreating you and
6. What goes around DOES come around, maybe not today, but when that other shoe drops you better pray you’re not under it.

Now go on, live, love, and glow!


9.75 Things That Annoy Me

March 22, 2009

1) People who think they’re a lot smarter than they really are.
Give me a good old ‘idiot’ who knows his/her limitations than a downright jackass who thinks he/she was robbed out of the nobel lauriet.

2) People with messenger viruses who don’t realize simply changing their passwords would solve the problem!

3) People who cannot read a URL and determine when a link is safe or not.
The reason this annoys me is simple: I wanted to send a contact a link to a youtube video, to which I heard “I don’t click links” and I was like… “Is there some weird youtube virus I’m unaware of?”

4) Customer service representatives with no training!
Few things in life inspire me to rage as a CSR who needs a good back hand. Imagine going for coffee to see some… girl… on the company phone talking her personal business, I go up to her and look her full in her face, she look s at me, looks off and continues with her conversation moving out of sight. Suffice it to say I went around to face her again and racist remarks ensued, but that’s neither here nor there.

4.75) Fake people.
You know what I mean, be they persons who went to high school with you, someone from the office or just random strangers, those persons who try to be all sweet and sugary but leave that nasty artificial sweetener taste in your mouth. Saccharin.

5.75) Taxi Drivers
The reason they annoy me is that they tend to do THE most foolishness on the roads, cause several accidents but often evade being actually IN an accident. I just hate to see those taxi cones coming, I just know to get to the nearest sidewalk, wall or lamp post to protect myself.

6.75) People who feel the need to question EVERYTHING
Here’s a kicker, if I wanted your input, more than likely, it was in jest. Why then were I to say “I’m going to the gas station.” lead to a 20 minute debate on the finer points of gas stations vs. supermarkets, and gas stations vs. minimarts and corner stores? Or better yet, if you get invited to attend some event or the other and you decline as is your prerogative some nosy person is going to ask “Why not?” Grrrr… because I don’t want to. THERE! I SAID IT! HAPPY NOW?!

7.75) Twitter in general.
Up to this very moment I just go through the motions of updating my status or whatever they choose to call it but I have no real understanding of the point of it. It’s like taking having no life to new heights.

8.75) Recent articles in the Nation Newspaper
Don’t get me wrong, I am not trying to imply that I am the most gifted writer there ever was to grace to pages of the internet, however I must say that the caliber and content of the articles of late are so childish, baseless and full of nothing but sensationalism which is NOT journalism at its finest. Thumbs down.

9.75) The security firm which patrols my neighborhood.
I would like to take this opportunity to request that the owners of J.E. Security monitor the speed with which their drivers accelerate around St. James/ St. Thomas. Hearing them braking and screeching at the intersection makes me fear for the safety of the residents as it relates to being struck down, more than of being robbed!


Rihanna and Chris Brown Reconciled

February 28, 2009

I am having a hard time wrapping my brain around this one. So I woke up and on Facebook one of my contacts had up something about Rihanna in his status message.聽 So I followed the link to TMZ and was flabbergasted to read it.

Rihanna and Chris Brown — Back Together!

What is she thinking?!

The story just broke on People.com and TMZ has confirmed, the couple has reconciled and they are “together.” According to the report, the two are hanging at one of Diddy’s homes.

The L.A. County D.A. is expected to get the case from cops soon and then decide whether to charge Brown for the alleged beating earlier this month.

Battered Wife Syndrome. She is far too young and supposed to be surrounded by too many positive influences to be going down this road. It saddens me that she left Barbados, became a megastar, got her ass beaten alongside the road like some common whore and then goes back with the guy that burst her head. I hold my tongue no more. I have lost nearly all respect for both parties in this situation. Love isn’t abuse, beating, fighting or assault.

Nuff Said.


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February 24, 2009

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